Queries......

[violachic]

Are you afraid of anything? Does this fear interfere at all with they way you live/want to live your life? How do you deal with this fear? Do you ever look at anyone with fears and wonder what they're so afraid of? Do you face your fear(s), or do you do anything to avoid them?


Do you feel you have "potential"? Do you live up to said potential? Have you ever encountered anyone who thought you had more potential than you think you do, or less potential than you think you do? Would living up to your potential automatically make you happy? Do you feel obligated to others to develop that potential?

Comments

[pisslejane.livejournal.com]

Fears -- I have fears. . .a lot of them are irrational. I think that's what makes them fears in the first place. I have an unreal fear of the dark. I'm 27 years old and I can't stand to be somewhere with no light. I still have to sleep with a night light. Doesn't make me real effective at dealing with my kids fears of the dark, but . . .I try hard. It doesn't effect my happiness.

My biggest fear is of being alone. I hate the concept of being without someone. Maybe that's why I had 3 kids despite all of the warnings against me having children. I like knowing that no matter what I will never be alone. It wasn't the sole reason for me having children but it did make a difference.

Potential -- this is a big issue in my life right now. Every one seems to think I have the ability to do all the things that THEY want me to do, i.e. a full time job, law school, paralegal certification, etc. etc. I'm awfully content with my life. I think being a good mommy is my best potential. Maybe that's silly but I am awfully content with where I am even though the outside world is not. I don't think living up to my potential would make me any happier than I am right now. I am happy with me . . even though I'm not the ideal weight or height or anything.

/rant.

[violachic.livejournal.com]

Teach me to be like you :)

I'm afraid of the dark, too.

[pisslejane.livejournal.com]

Trust me sweety it took me a very long time, a lot of life experiences and learning to look death in the face and walk away to get to this point and I'm still not perfect by any means. I just know what I want out of life and how to get it now.

[violachic.livejournal.com]

I just know what I want out of life and how to get it now

This is the part I seem to be eternally stuck on

[pisslejane.livejournal.com]

Give yourself time. I have lived a lot of life. I have no idea how old you are, but I was 18 when I got married, lost a baby and got pregnant again shortly after my 19th birthday. Since then I've been divorced, remarried, had 2 more kids and lived a hell of a lot of experiences. I've spent 8 1/2 years getting my bachelor's degree because I WANTED it that bad. You can do what you set out to do if you have a plan and are flexible enough to realize life is never lived on your schedule but on God's. *hugs*

[febrile.livejournal.com]

My dear and my potential are the same. I fear mediocrity -- not living up to my potential. Sometimes I face it, sometimes I bury my head in the sand. It can sometimes be self-fulfilling. It's a daily struggle.

That, and I'm afraid of large, flying insects. No reason. Never been stung, no reason to think I'm allergic, they just oog me viscerally.

[rollick.livejournal.com]

Believe it or not, I'm afraid of new people, new situations, and uncertainity. And yeah, it interferes — it results in me spending a lot more time at home than I should. I deal with it by combating it, by deliberately putting myself in new situations, and by making a point of making them fun and exciting, to try to break my nervousness. I wonder all the time what the other people around me are thinking, and what they're hiding, and how they relate to the world around them.

Potential? Yeah. Everyone has it. And no, I'm not living up to it properly, and yes, it depresses me. Given my job, I've met a LOT of people I felt had more potential than I do — people who are smarter, funnier, more attractive, more talented. And that depresses me too. But living up to my potential wouldn't necessarily make me happy. Nothing "automatically" makes ANYONE happy, not even mood-altering chemicals. Happiness is an internal state of mind, and learning to achieve it, if you aren't already prone to happiness, is difficult.

And clearly I don't feel an obligation to others to live up to my full potential, or I would.

[violachic.livejournal.com]

That's one of my fears, too. Which is why going to meetup and stuff is so important to me. I guess I'm trying to desensitize myself to the sting of being around new people, and learning how to handle it without feeling so overwhelmingly shy. Well, I also go to meetup because I know I'm going to experience cool people :)

[dust-wind-dude.livejournal.com]

i'm afraid of questions.

[rincewindrocks.livejournal.com]

I'm afraid of black people, I avoid them at all costs.

[dust-wind-dude.livejournal.com]

so eric is white and he just got reeeeaaaaallly sunburned sunday, right?

[rincewindrocks.livejournal.com]

He goes to tanning beds year round.

[violachic.livejournal.com]

You guys are such freaks. I leave my journal unattended for, like, two hours, and look what happens. Sheeeeeeeesh. I need to hire a babysitter or something.


I mean.....I love you guys!

[rincewindrocks.livejournal.com]

I'm gonna need a babysitter, I'm gettin off early tonight!!!

[prrrn.livejournal.com]

Fears? I'm afraid of feeling alive again, afraid of what it feels like to have energy and motivation, afraid of being "normal", afraid of being healthy... I'm afraid that somehow that means I'm going to have all sorts of expectations for myself that I won't be able to achieve. As much as I hate my depression, it's familiar, and I've almost forgotten what life was like before. And I'm afraid because even that wasn't wonderful, so I'm not sure what I want out of life... ...I have lots of little fears too, but I guess it's the big ones that got the attention of my fingers tonight...

Potential? Clearly, I'm not living up to the potential I once thought I had, but for some reason I don't seem to mind right now. In a way, I'm kind of proud of myself for what I've gotten through. And I guess I still have hope, maybe even faith, that I will do something that feels important for the world.

[violachic.livejournal.com]

In a way, I'm kind of proud of myself for what I've gotten through

Yeah :) Me too.

Although there are times that part of me wishes I didn't feel as acutely as I did, and wishes I could feel kind of numb. Feeling can be kind of overwhelming sometimes. But then when its gone, and begins to return, I remember how wonderful it is, even though I have to take the bad with the good.