Queries......

[violachic]

Are you afraid of anything? Does this fear interfere at all with they way you live/want to live your life? How do you deal with this fear? Do you ever look at anyone with fears and wonder what they're so afraid of? Do you face your fear(s), or do you do anything to avoid them?


Do you feel you have "potential"? Do you live up to said potential? Have you ever encountered anyone who thought you had more potential than you think you do, or less potential than you think you do? Would living up to your potential automatically make you happy? Do you feel obligated to others to develop that potential?

Comments

[rollick.livejournal.com]

Believe it or not, I'm afraid of new people, new situations, and uncertainity. And yeah, it interferes — it results in me spending a lot more time at home than I should. I deal with it by combating it, by deliberately putting myself in new situations, and by making a point of making them fun and exciting, to try to break my nervousness. I wonder all the time what the other people around me are thinking, and what they're hiding, and how they relate to the world around them.

Potential? Yeah. Everyone has it. And no, I'm not living up to it properly, and yes, it depresses me. Given my job, I've met a LOT of people I felt had more potential than I do — people who are smarter, funnier, more attractive, more talented. And that depresses me too. But living up to my potential wouldn't necessarily make me happy. Nothing "automatically" makes ANYONE happy, not even mood-altering chemicals. Happiness is an internal state of mind, and learning to achieve it, if you aren't already prone to happiness, is difficult.

And clearly I don't feel an obligation to others to live up to my full potential, or I would.

[violachic.livejournal.com]

That's one of my fears, too. Which is why going to meetup and stuff is so important to me. I guess I'm trying to desensitize myself to the sting of being around new people, and learning how to handle it without feeling so overwhelmingly shy. Well, I also go to meetup because I know I'm going to experience cool people :)