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[violachic]

So this is Saturday (just in case some of you were wondering). On Wednesday, I had a fight with my mother. Apparently, she has alternately called it "I had a talking-to with Amy", and "we had a nice discussion". Bullshit. At any rate, its been three days since then, and I have yet to speak to her. I know that must sound really immature, but I just don't have anything to say to her right now. I'm incredibly sick of being spoken to that way, and she doesn't seem to take it seriously. And what makes it twenty times worse, she'll call up the next day and want to offer me something extra cheerful or happy or whatever. Jesus H. Tapdancing Christ, woman, get a mood stablizer! I'm not really sure what to do about it anymore. This has to stop, but I mean, she's my mother. I do love her, and when she's acting normal, she can even be a lot of fun. I don't want to end up estranged from my family, but frankly, I'm not going to spend the rest of my life trying to maneuver around her mood and whims and nasty talk and threats. Its a conundrum. At least I don't live with her. It just completely reinforces my whole idea of "I need to get the hell out of town". Blah.

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[grrrnolagrl.livejournal.com]

There's plenty of room in Louisville for another chic who's not in complete agreement with her mother's ideas about how her life should go! In fact, I already happen to know at least two others who can relate ;)

Hang in there!!!

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[violachic.livejournal.com]

Thanks :) Louisville isn't my first choice of escape plans, but I'll keep it in mind ;)

[ex-divalibby633.livejournal.com]

um.....you may not technically live with her, but you do live awfully close.

I think away would be a good option.....louisville is at least south, so less seasonal problems for the amy.

being away is not being estranged, it's having space. It's being able to not return a phone call for a couple days without mom showing up on the back porch in 4 hours.

cause we all know you have no life, right???

(sorry, didnt mean to get sarcasm all over your journal)

[pinkfluffyjumpr.livejournal.com]

i have to ignore or laugh at my mom when she gets like that... cause i would otherwise always be really upset with her...

[pinkfluffyjumpr.livejournal.com]

oh ... and... I hope that you are able to work it out.
Love you

[sedation665.livejournal.com]

no you don't sound immature....I live WAY too close for comfort with my mom...ugh and gettin out of town isnt the answer either, they know how to use the phone but at least then you can talk to them when you want. You shouldn't have to live walking on eggshells but fuck....I don't have any real good advice for ya except good luck...I am still dealing here with the same situation.

[karleusa.livejournal.com]

i totally totally understand.

i think those frustrations just go along with being mother-daughter. my mom is almost 50 years old, has a boyfriend that is 6 whole years younger than her yet she thinks she needs to dress like britney spears to make herself attractive/. i dont really care, BUT she enforces the fact that she is so much slimmer than me and how i need to "get younger".
if i spend more than one eight hour shift with my mom i seriously want to either a. punch her or b. slit my wrists.

it has been this way for a long time. i dont think your feelings are irrational at all. i think you are probably a very good daughter. do you live alone? when i lived with my mom i thought i would go insane. we live in the same general area, about 30 minutes city driving from eachother, yet i feel that it is a little too close for comfort sometimes. my mother takes a mile when i give an inch and constantly complains about how poor she is (with the hopes that i will give her money) etc...etc..etc..
i could go on and on,

take care and good luck.
K

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[violachic.livejournal.com]

It sounds like your mom and my mom are the same person, with different motivations. I don't live with my mom, but i do live with my dad, and she bought a condo last year about four blocks from the house. Yeah, so close enough that she shows up on the back porch from time to time.

I understand that these are problems inherent in a mother-daughter relationship, but I really hope I'm not like that when I'm a mom. Frankly, the whole deal smacks of "control issues" to me.

Bleurgh.

Thanks :)

[prrrn.livejournal.com]

Ack. I wanted to say that I agree that it's okay to not talk to your mom for at least a week when she's being really obnoxious! I am definitely known to screen phone calls when my parents are getting to me so I can avoid them. They don't like it, but they will deal somehow.

But... I'm not sure what I'd do if my mom live 4 blocks away! I think I'd go hunting for an invisibility cloak... (been reading a bit too much Harry Potter!)