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[violachic]

I know this is going to sound really harsh, and I know that there are people who will disagree with me, but I very firmly believe that in this day and age, with the number of children out there who desperately need good homes, it is downright unethical for people to have eighteen natural-born children. If every child is a blessing, why can't you go adopt a dozen or so who already exist?

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[ironheadjane.livejournal.com]

But you see, if GOD wants you to not have 18 children, he'd make your womb shrivel up so you were not able to. Because, (as I read on a FOAF's LJ info page), every conception is meant to be by God. Also, as Pastor Rick Warren says, there is no such thing as an unwanted child. Every child is wanted by God.

Of course, the adverse of this is if you have infertility issues, it's because God has chosen you not to breed (though I hear a lot less from the people who are anti-choice being anti-fertility treatment.)

My opinion is that children, in many cases these days, have less to do with people caring and loving that child into adulthood, and more to do with pure narcissism. The Baby Industrial Complex, and the Cult of Motherhood, that I so passionately loathe, are more wrapped up in the business and the narcissistic, egocentric experience of having a child that it's no longer about caring for a separate, unique human being, but about tending to the "inner child" of the parents.

I really didn't have any idea of how sick the BIC/CoM was until a friend of mine (IRL/Internet friend) went through exhaustive amounts of fertility treatments over multiple years, ending in IVF and the birth of two babies. By watching her journal, and her FOAF journals when they'd comment, I was just horrified. Babies were the latest accessory items in a commercial oriented lifestyle. The mothers' comments and posts reflected more what they expected their babies to do for them, than what they expected to do for/with the babies.

Having 18 kids (like the CoM/BIC people) is about doing something because you can, not because you should.