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Dec. 22nd, 2003 12:40 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
violachicSo we've established that I know some pretty cool people. I like them, and they like me. Some of them I've known for years, and are quite close to; some I've met more recently, but I've become pretty attached to them fairly quickly. Many of us have been through a lot of rough times together and managed to survive. Even when the rough time was with each other.
These are facts. These are not vague concepts- they are quite concrete. You can not deny them if you tried.
Everybody goes through rocky moments, although perhaps some more than others. I know that I, as well as quite a few of my close friends, have had rocky moments relatively recently. When going through rocky times, its very easy to get depressed and sad, and feel isolated and alone. Sometimes its very easy to do the isolating to yourself. And when this happens, it is hard to remember that there are good friends out there who love and support us. Very often, they are the ones who eventually yank us up out of the mud pit, haul our asses out of the house, and eventually help us to feel better about ourselves and life.
These are also undeniable, concrete facts. Whether the feelings are rational or not, they do occur. You can not dispute their existence.
So I guess my question is this:
What can you do, when you're down and depressed and sad and overwhelmed, to trigger something that makes you remember those friends and good times, that can help yank you out of the doldrums? I mean, its not like you can just put it in a box you keep under your bed, and when you're feeling down you open it and go "oh yeah, that's where I put that!". Is there a trick to it, or a buzzword, or a mantra to use? Can we train ourselves in some kind of Pavlovian way? Or do we just have to ride it out and rely on our friends to come riding to the rescue once more?
I don't get it.
But I do know that I have some pretty awesome friends, and I just hope that I've been as good to them as they have to me.
These are facts. These are not vague concepts- they are quite concrete. You can not deny them if you tried.
Everybody goes through rocky moments, although perhaps some more than others. I know that I, as well as quite a few of my close friends, have had rocky moments relatively recently. When going through rocky times, its very easy to get depressed and sad, and feel isolated and alone. Sometimes its very easy to do the isolating to yourself. And when this happens, it is hard to remember that there are good friends out there who love and support us. Very often, they are the ones who eventually yank us up out of the mud pit, haul our asses out of the house, and eventually help us to feel better about ourselves and life.
These are also undeniable, concrete facts. Whether the feelings are rational or not, they do occur. You can not dispute their existence.
So I guess my question is this:
What can you do, when you're down and depressed and sad and overwhelmed, to trigger something that makes you remember those friends and good times, that can help yank you out of the doldrums? I mean, its not like you can just put it in a box you keep under your bed, and when you're feeling down you open it and go "oh yeah, that's where I put that!". Is there a trick to it, or a buzzword, or a mantra to use? Can we train ourselves in some kind of Pavlovian way? Or do we just have to ride it out and rely on our friends to come riding to the rescue once more?
I don't get it.
But I do know that I have some pretty awesome friends, and I just hope that I've been as good to them as they have to me.
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Date: 2003-12-22 11:12 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-12-22 10:32 pm (UTC)You will feel better and people will come running (or at least turn their heads).
Yawp. A good Yawp is good too.
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Date: 2003-12-22 10:35 pm (UTC)Antidotal Antibiotic
Date: 2003-12-23 09:58 am (UTC)How about a "Hang In There" Kity poster